Please help!--Don't read if your under 16 please
To anyone thats too young for "sexual situations" please don't read this...
So I'm not sure what to do and I could really use some feed back because my love life is in major meltdown right now! Here's what happened...
I had a great boyfriend..I fell in love, everything was perfect. We had 6 amazing months but then his job took him out of state for 5 months. Meanwhile...I got a little too drunk one night and made out with his friend. Garrett (the friend) and I saw each other everyday for several weeks after that--having sex most of the time and other times just hanging out and talking. Garrett is younger than my ex-Andrew- was but Garrett also has a 2 year old child. I really like Garrett and I get butterflys with him and always get excited to get a text from him.
So I felt so guilty about cheating I just told Andrew I didn't want a boyfriend anymore--atleast not a long distance relationship. He still tells me he loves me but I had my heart set on dating Garrett...which since they were friends I knew would make Andrew mad if he ever found out.
Well Garrett went off to school for a few weeks and I rarely hear from him. He says he doesn't want to strain Andrew and his relationship because of me so he doesn't want anyone to find out. I feel SO used. I still have feelings for Garrett to be honest...Andrew not so much. I'm not sure what to do...now Garrett doesn't want to hang out with me but sometimes asks for nude pictures of me and we talk maybe once a week through text. Andrew still wants to date but doesn't know i cheated.....
PLEASE HELP....and I know some of you will tell me I'm stupid for chasing a guy that uses me...but I can't help that I have feelings for him. I need your honest opinions on what to do..please..
So I'm not sure what to do and I could really use some feed back because my love life is in major meltdown right now! Here's what happened...
I had a great boyfriend..I fell in love, everything was perfect. We had 6 amazing months but then his job took him out of state for 5 months. Meanwhile...I got a little too drunk one night and made out with his friend. Garrett (the friend) and I saw each other everyday for several weeks after that--having sex most of the time and other times just hanging out and talking. Garrett is younger than my ex-Andrew- was but Garrett also has a 2 year old child. I really like Garrett and I get butterflys with him and always get excited to get a text from him.
So I felt so guilty about cheating I just told Andrew I didn't want a boyfriend anymore--atleast not a long distance relationship. He still tells me he loves me but I had my heart set on dating Garrett...which since they were friends I knew would make Andrew mad if he ever found out.
Well Garrett went off to school for a few weeks and I rarely hear from him. He says he doesn't want to strain Andrew and his relationship because of me so he doesn't want anyone to find out. I feel SO used. I still have feelings for Garrett to be honest...Andrew not so much. I'm not sure what to do...now Garrett doesn't want to hang out with me but sometimes asks for nude pictures of me and we talk maybe once a week through text. Andrew still wants to date but doesn't know i cheated.....
PLEASE HELP....and I know some of you will tell me I'm stupid for chasing a guy that uses me...but I can't help that I have feelings for him. I need your honest opinions on what to do..please..
03 aug 2011
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penumbra (opgeheven op 9-7-2013)
woensdag 03 augustus 2011 09:56
My advice is, take a break from Garrett AND Andrew for a few days. Distract yourself. Once you've reached that, sit down and think about how you really feel towards G. and WHY you feel that way. Is it because he was good in bed? Is it because he comforted you somehow?
You might even find out that he was being a good guy to you SO he can get you in bed. Now, if that doesn't shock you somehow, you should start analyzing every bit. Start building bad feelings towards him. How could he use you?! Also, start finding things that annoyed you while you had something. I know it can seem like you can't find anything bad about the guy when you (think) you're in love with him, but try it anyway. He's not worth it, besides, you probably know guys often go by the motto 'Bros before hoes', it's why they're often better friends than we girls are amongst each other haha.
Also it's possible you're chasing him BECAUSE he's avoiding you. See, if you would've said you don't want him and stopped contacting him, it's very likely HE would start bothering you. Subconsciously it might even be because your ego was a bit bruised because of it.
Whatever you do though, don't make yourself crazy and try to win him back. Even if he comes back to you now, it's very likely he only will so you two can have sex.
These are all things based on my observations/experiences, I don't know him, you OR your ex personally otherwise I could've given a better advice haha. Good luck, and if you want to speak personally you can always send me a personal message on here
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penumbra (opgeheven op 9-7-2013)
woensdag 03 augustus 2011 09:59
while you two were together*
Oh and if you don't really have feelings towards Andrew, I don't recommend getting back with him. It's possible you'll feel guilty, and so on. You'd be leading him on if you do, I think. But you're the one who decides what you will do in the end lol.
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