Attachment style musings #1
Free-form rambles, analysing/feeling about my general feelings about friendships and relationships. No one specific.
I feel like I like too many things. I am a curious person, without the energy to match.
Maybe I like so many things, because then I will be able to appeal to as many people as possible.
That is part true. I miss connection.
Then at the same time, I don't know how to connect.
https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/attachment/what-are-the-four-attachment-styles/
>Fearful-avoidant adult attachment style
>Disorganized-insecure attachment kid style
is my self-analysis.
I keep falling for people with mommy issues, I think. And that is completely fine. I have my issues too. And I crave being the caring, nurturing energy person, I crave being needed that way.
Not fixing someone. Not mothering them, but giving them love and healing them.*
(And through that process, getting love back and. Healing myself.)
But only to a certain extent, I guess?
The problem is, Idk what the problem is.
The problem is, I am afraid of being hurt.
The problem is, I get so in my own mind space and then I either want to be free to do what I want or to be small and cared for myself.
But I don't want to have to miss that, I don't want to have something like that to lose.
Maybe I should start driving a motorcycle and become a badass heartbreaker biker chick. Fuck this inner growth and healing thing! Be awesome instead! lol
* Healing is not the same as trying to force "fixing" them because I think something is "wrong" with them. Healing is simply... A process that comes from within a person. The healing manifests as giving someone the circumstances to feel safe, a listening ear and a hand if they want it.
Even though I tend to start brainstorming for solutions, they are always meant to be suggestions, to be ignored if unapplicable or unwanted. And I am capable of switching to a more listening stance.
I feel like I like too many things. I am a curious person, without the energy to match.
Maybe I like so many things, because then I will be able to appeal to as many people as possible.
That is part true. I miss connection.
Then at the same time, I don't know how to connect.
https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/attachment/what-are-the-four-attachment-styles/
>Fearful-avoidant adult attachment style
>Disorganized-insecure attachment kid style
is my self-analysis.
I keep falling for people with mommy issues, I think. And that is completely fine. I have my issues too. And I crave being the caring, nurturing energy person, I crave being needed that way.
Not fixing someone. Not mothering them, but giving them love and healing them.*
(And through that process, getting love back and. Healing myself.)
But only to a certain extent, I guess?
The problem is, Idk what the problem is.
The problem is, I am afraid of being hurt.
The problem is, I get so in my own mind space and then I either want to be free to do what I want or to be small and cared for myself.
But I don't want to have to miss that, I don't want to have something like that to lose.
Maybe I should start driving a motorcycle and become a badass heartbreaker biker chick. Fuck this inner growth and healing thing! Be awesome instead! lol
* Healing is not the same as trying to force "fixing" them because I think something is "wrong" with them. Healing is simply... A process that comes from within a person. The healing manifests as giving someone the circumstances to feel safe, a listening ear and a hand if they want it.
Even though I tend to start brainstorming for solutions, they are always meant to be suggestions, to be ignored if unapplicable or unwanted. And I am capable of switching to a more listening stance.
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